Love is when those moments that are tough are not
as bad as they could be, and it is when those moments that are good are even
better, all because those moments are shared with the right people. Love is not
only about loving people when it is easy to, but also loving them when it is
not. Love is about being vulnerable. Yes, it is a scary idea to let people in
because then they can hurt you, but that is a part of love. Love is knowing
that you can get hurt but opening yourself up anyway because you know that love
makes up for a lot. It may not be easy to open up, but it is worth it. You can
think of all the things that can go wrong, but what about all the things that
can go right? As Sarah Dessen once expressed, “Holding people away from you,
and denying yourself love, that doesn't make you strong. If anything, it makes
you weaker because you're doing it out of fear.” If you always keep people at a
distance, you may miss out on the bad, but you will also miss out on the good.
Love is when you willingly want what is best for
another, even if that does not include you. The person who breaks up with his
or her significant other often gets a bad rep, but you should try to see the
situation from both sides. Oftentimes, it is not easy for someone to break up
with another. It will be hard on both people in the relationship, but you know
what? If you truly love that person, you will let that person go find what he
or she needs, and you will not love him or her any less for it. It does not
mean that it will hurt any less, but that is unconditional love. If you are the
one doing the breaking up, be sure to do it in a way where you do not play the
blame game. Instead, express yourself in a way that is clear and respectful.
Also, allow the other person to share his or her thoughts on the situation.
Love
is not about control and power. People who love you encourage you, and they
genuinely listen when you express your feelings. They do not force you to
apologize for how you feel. People who love you do not try to command you, make
you do things you do not want to do, or manipulate whom you can and cannot see.
Love does not mean being together all the time. Love means not being together
all the time and nothing changing.
People who love you do not antagonize
you or make you feel less than what you are. You are allowed to pursue your
ambitions, you are allowed to feel the way you do, and you are allowed to be
who you are unapologetically. It is not a healthy relationship if your feelings
are silenced and rendered invalid by the other person. No matter how much you
care for someone, sometimes, he or she is not right for you. Some people may
desire you, but they may not value you. Those people are not worth keeping. Do
not feel obligated to preserve those kinds of relationships at the expense of
yourself. Sometimes, you have to sacrifice what you would like to keep for the
better overall good.
Can you list all of the people that you
love? Did you include yourself on that list? Self-love is such an important
thing to have. Self-love is when you appreciate and accept yourself as you are.
I hope that you are able to look at yourself and proudly say, “I am beautiful.”
Doing that does not make you conceited. You are worthy because of who you are,
not because of whose you are. Be someone who makes you happy. You are your own
person. Please be kind to yourself, and surround yourself with the
people and things that make you happy. Every second, you get a second chance. Life is full of chances, and love is worth
taking a chance on.
Guest Contributor: Megan Chan
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